When studying literature in school, I remember learning that Jane Austen originally wanted to call her book First Impressions, but for whatever reason she settled on Pride and Prejudice instead. Although I’m embarrassed to admit I don’t remember the story very well, I do know that first impressions are important- but are we wrong or right about our first read of people?
I met someone recently, and knew within the first thirty seconds that they weren’t what I was looking for. Jane Austen whispered to me to keep getting to know them and not be so dismissive, so I continued (I always listen to my inner Jane Austen). Although thirty minutes later I still knew this person wouldn’t work, I did have a very enjoyable conversation and made a new friend.
It’s so easy to judge someone, especially at first. Chances are, our gut instinct is right. But gut aside, even if the person aligns with our preconceived notions, they’re almost always worth getting to know.
Copyright 2014 Anne Mathay